Myomancy ADHD, Dyslexia and Autism

Teaching Developmentally Disabled Children: The Me Book

O. Ivar Lovaas

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Read this book. We have implemented an intensive at-home ABA program with our autistic son which started when he was 31 months old. In 3 months, he has progressed from avoiding eye contact and interaction, and not using his hands at all for anything except eating/drinking, and being easily distressed to: smiling and interacting with family members and friendly outsiders in a variety of environments, normal play at the neighborhood park, and normal play with many toddler and preschool toys, including 12-piece peg puzzles. He was almost totally mute at the start of the program and now happily vocalizes while playing and interacting.

Like many parents facing autism we were skeptical of Lovaas' methods. What we are coming to realize, however, is that many critics of the method (including ourselves, previously) have NEVER seen it done! Punishment is not the goal--positive reinforcement is. A good ABA therapist will want your child to: 1) be successful and, more importantly, 2) to enjoy his/her success. To use the words of a previous parent reviewer, you lovingly insist on your child attending to you (as you would with any strong-willed toddler or child if you were, say, changing their diaper against their "better" wishes!) and over time you then present a series of teachable moments where your child is first taught the simplest of actions or tasks, the primary purpose of which is to be able to then positively reinforce your child for a "job well done," with a hug, a tickle, a toss in the air, accompanied by tons of verbal praise and maybe a tiny bit of candy. Little by little, the success enjoyed in all of these teachable moments leads to learning more complicated and relevant tasks and actions and gives your child a sense of purpose and self-esteem, ultimately communicating to him that interacting with the world around him is a good and pleasurable thing, not something to avoid with disturbing withdrawal or bizarre self-stimulatory behaviors. I urge all parents of autistic children to read this book in conjunction with LET ME HEAR YOUR VOICE (by Catherine Maurice) and seriously consider this therapy; then, sit in on a session of an established program involving another child before saying no to it. Careful reading, research, and discussion of The ME Book and current ABA literature showed us that the aversives and punishments emphasized by Lovaas' critics are typically used in situations where the autistic child/individual is caught in a behaviorial "loop" involving repetitive, severe, self-inflicted injury or seriously threatening behavior to others, with this behavior often unwittingly reinforced by concerned caregivers having the best of intentions. Read this book, find an experienced ABA therapist, check references, and ASK YOUR QUESTIONS. Seeing is believing.

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